Making peace with aging

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I want to ask God to help me to stop listening to and believing the lies about what makes us have value. My value comes from my heavenly Father who made me, my Savior Jesus Christ who died for me and the Holy Spirit who lives in me. This outward body is fading away but my spirit will never die. True beauty, true value comes from the light within not from the outward appearance. I release this into His hands. I will find joy in being 54. I thank Him for giving me these years and all the years to come.



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2 responses to “Making peace with aging

  1. Pam

    Honey I don’t give a damn about wrinkles and sags. I just want to feel better and make peace with a body that I can no longer trust to function as it once did. 50 is a walk in the park compared to 71.


  2. Good point, Pam! I have a lot to be thankful for! (even at almost 60)


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